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Put the children first: How to tell them about the divorce

Some children can sense when their parents are fighting and changes are coming, but others are oblivious and may be caught off-guard at the news of divorce. If you are divorcing and you have children, how you tell them can make a huge difference in how they process the news.

It is almost impossible to completely protect your children from damage done during a divorce, and your children may have traumatic memories about the time. The best thing you can do as parents is present a united front and show your children that both parents will still love and care for them.

Not all domestic abuse is physical, other forms exist

Domestic violence is a criminal act. There is no room for this type of atrocious behavior in a marriage. If your spouse is abusive toward you, there are things you can do that might help you to get out of the situation.

You need to understand that domestic abuse isn't all physical. Other types of domestic abuse can occur. You might suffer from economic abuse if your spouse tightly controls the finances and tries to make even life's essentials hard for you to obtain. Sexual abuse is also possible. Emotional abuse and psychological abuse might also occur. In all of these cases, your spouse is using his or her chosen methods to try to control you beyond what would occur in a normal marriage.

Fathers have very specific rights that they can assert

Fathers have specific rights when it comes to their children. We recently discussed the case of the father who fought an adoption that he didn't consent to. If you recall, he won the case. While this is an extreme example of what can happen when a father fights for his rights, it is also a powerful example.

With very few exceptions, such as cases involving child abuse, children need to have a relationship with both parents. The days of the mother being able to railroad the father and keep the kids are gone. Fathers can fight for their parenting rights -- and many of these cases end with the father being able to be an involved parent.

Father fights against adoption he didn't consent to, wins battle

Imagine finding out that you have a child but you can't have contact with the child. This is exactly what one father has been going through for the past nine years. This father is from Colorado. His ex moved from Colorado to Utah prior to the child's birth.

The child was born prematurely. Shortly before her birth, the father had filed a petition for paternity. He wasn't aware that the woman had given birth to the girl until after she had signed her rights away to family members. Ever since then, the girl's biological father has been battling to raise his daughter.

Preparation is the key for ending a marriage

We recently discussed what will happen to children if a parent goes to jail. While this is a unique child custody issue, it does show that there are some instances in which parents might have to rush to come up with a plan for custody. For parents who are divorced, this is a very trying issue.

These types of custody issues are only one of the issues that you might need to plan for when you get a divorce. Matters that you have to go through include the property division process, which is something that can be very difficult to handle. The property division process could mean that you are trying to decide who gets some very sentimental items. This is often more difficult than determining who gets higher value assets.

What child custody issues come up when a parent goes to jail?

A person who is sentenced to jail has a lot to think about. If you are a parent who is sentenced to time in jail, you have to think about what will happen to your children. For some parents, the answer is easy since the other parent can watch the child, but this isn't always the case.

Some parents don't have anyone else they can rely on at home to take of the child. Whether the other parent isn't in the picture or just isn't someone who can take care of a child, these parents have some difficult time ahead.

Think about your child's needs and interests in custody matters

We recently discussed grandparent's rights and how they can impact a child. Grandparents rights are only one factor that can bear weight during a divorce. When you are going through a child custody case, you have to think about what is best for your child.

We know that it isn't easy for you to think about your child having to spend time away from you. When you and your child's other parent aren't in a relationship any longer, you may have to deal with this possibility.

Grandparents' rights in Colorado vary considerably

When many people think about their childhoods, they have fond memories of time spent with their grandparents. For some children, those memories are missing, not because their grandparent passed away but because their parents kept them away from their grandparents.

Being kept away from their grandchildren is a nightmare for many grandparents. In some cases, a grandparent might have a claim to grandparent rights. This might help the grandparents to be involved in their grandchild's life.

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In our high-pressure society, there's so much emphasis on obtaining a college degree and immediately entering the workforce with a focus on finding monetary success that for many people, the option of having a child naturally can take a backseat to other endeavors.

Domestic violence incidents must be handled appropriately

Domestic violence isn't something that you can ignore. Instead, you have to take the steps that are necessary for you and your children to remain safe. When physical violence is a factor in your relationship, you should understand that the situation is likely going to get worse. The chance of it improving is slim to none. We know this is a troubling situation for you to face; however, we can help you to learn about the options you have to help deal with the matter.

If you are leaving an abusive relationship, you need to make sure that you take all the steps you can to protect yourself. One of options that you have is seeking a restraining order. This order, which is issued by the court, forbids your abuser from coming too close to you. This isn't a foolproof method of staying safe, but it is a good start.

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