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Emotional thinking can be your enemy in a divorce

The end of a marriage often brings up a mixture of feelings. You might feel happy that the marriage is finally over, but you might feel sad at the same time. The emotional back and forth of the divorce is something that can easily get in the way of your getting the divorce settlement made and finalized.

If you are considering a divorce or are in the midst of one, you should find out what laws apply to your case so that you can prepare for what is likely going to happen. When you are prepared for the proceedings, you are probably going to be able to think with a level head instead of letting your emotions rule you. It can mean that you are able to clearly think about the points you are considering.

Same-sex couples can face challenges after adoptions

Same-sex couples face many of the same issues as other couples. When a same-sex couple adopts a child, they will often have to deal with many of the challenges of other adoptive families. What might change is the information that is exchanged and the questions that can come up.

Sexuality is one of the issues that is likely to come up after an adoption, or even if you have biological children. Typical mom-and-dad families are what many people are accustomed to seeing. As time goes on, it is becoming more and more common for parents to divorce or for the situation to be something other than that typical arrangement.

Colorado law makes violence protection difficult

Domestic violence is a major problem throughout the nation, and in Colorado, there's been some concern that not enough is being done by law enforcement to help.


In one case, police failed to arrest a man after five calls for domestic violence: he later murdered his girlfriend only 12 hours after the last call. In the case mentioned above, there was no physical evidence or eyewitness testimony, so the police had no cause to arrest him.

Nontraditional families need legal protections

Nontraditional families deserve to have the same protections and benefits as traditional families. There are some instances in which the composition of the family makes getting legal protections a bit more complicated than what would occur in a traditional family.

We know that a family is a family regardless of who makes up that family. Whether you are a grandparent raising grandchildren or a same-sex couple, you deserve to have the legal protections that will make you feel more secure. The way that we get this done depends on the specific circumstances and details of the situation, as well as the goal that you have for the resolution.

What to know about parental modifications

Your marriage was not a lifetime arrangement, but your parental commitment remains long after a marriage has dissolved. The divorce settlement figured out your asset division but the arrangement for co-parenting is more challenging and subject to change as your life does.

Fast-forwarding a few years after your divorce, you've got a new job offer or met somebody out of state. It's time to move away but you share custody with your ex. What are the steps to move on and away without twisting the knife in the divorce scars?

Same-sex couples face many of the same issues as heterosexuals

Same-sex couples sometimes have to deal with social stigmas associated with their relationship status. Even though some people claim that same-sex marriages and relationships are somehow inferior to opposite-sex ones, that isn't anywhere close to the truth. Learning some facts about same-sex marriages and relationships might help to dispel some of the stigmas.

Same-sex couples can have relationships that are just as meaningful and just as stable than heterosexual couples. Researchers found that many people in same-sex relationships have been committed to their partner for 10 years or longer.

How to keep peace when a spouse remarries

Divorce isn't harmful to children, but conflict is. When discussing co-parenting, that's why keeping the peace and respecting boundaries is essential. When a spouse remarries, that's multiplied. Your place as a parent feels threatened by the new partner, but open communication and awareness of roles can help transition into the new family dynamic with minimal drama. You and your children are family for life, regardless of different household arrangements.

Bonds don't disappear, they evolve due to circumstance. With a new stepmother in the mix, a mother's role sometimes feels threatened and a child's loyalty is put into question. Furthermore, women and men are often drawn to traditional gender roles that create further tension between steps and co-parents.

Child custody sometimes requires creative solutions

In our previous blog post, we discussed how technology makes it possible for children and their parents to remain in contact even when they don't live close to each other. Virtual visitation is a concept that allows parents to remain active parts of their children's lives when they can't be there for all the major events. This might be useful for parents who are serving in the military and those who have to travel for work.

The interesting thing about child custody is that these agreements can often be very accommodating. Coming up with a creative solution to child custody issues can help the child at the heart of the case to continue to have a meaningful relationship with both parents.

Understanding what counts as an asset

Despite our best efforts, some relationships just don't work out. This can be particularly painful when we have pledged to spend our life with someone. Many dreams and expectations coexist with wedding plans, and the loss of those dreams can often be very difficult emotionally.

As you move into the next chapter of your life, it's important that you retain as much financial security as you had during your marriage. Colorado law uses the "equitable distribution" standard to divide assets acquired during a marriage. This means that property is divided fairly, but not necessarily equally.

Technology makes long distance visitation possible

As a parent, you probably enjoy the time you spend with your child. If you don't live near your child, you might find that you don't get to spend as much time with your child as you would like. Technology has made it possible for you to stay in contact with your child in more ways than just speaking on the phone. While this type of visitation isn't a replacement for in-person visits, it is a good option to fill the time between those visits.

Virtual visitation occurs when you and your child have contact through means like video chats, text message, email and other similar methods. In many cases, virtual visitation allows you and your child to see each other. This can be reassuring for you as a parent since you can lay eyes on your child and it can help the child to feel more connected to you.

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