Colorado couples who have decided to pursue a divorce have already taken the first step toward ending their marriages. It is important to remember that divorce is almost certain to be a challenging road, no matter how long you spent together — or even how well you handled the last days of your relationship. Although divorce can be a difficult process, there are some steps you can take to make the entire experience far less painful. These include gaining new perspectives and relying on existing support networks.
Divorcees are encouraged to immediately retain the services of an attorney. Even if you anticipate a relatively amicable divorce, it is still a good idea to seek legal counsel. Divorce legal issues have a tendency to bring out the worst in Colorado couples, no matter their previous behavior.
It is critical to build up a support network of friends and family members in the wake of a divorce. This is a useful strategy for both men and women, as additional emotional resources are always welcome during such a traumatic event. Perhaps there are some friends that you no longer spend much time with because of your ex-spouse’s preferences. Reconnect with those old friends. They can help you learn more about yourself while providing critical support through this tough time.
Finally, divorcees are encouraged to understand that their marriage can be considered a “sunk cost.” That means that the investment has already been purchased, and the money cannot be recovered. Instead of moping about the time, money and emotional capital you expended in your relationship, recognize that it was simply a sunk cost and move on. Instead of looking at the time you have lost, why not imagine your new life after your breakup? By following these few simple strategies, you are far more likely to experience a smooth transition back into single life.
Source: The Huffington Post, “6 Indispensable Tips on Surviving Your Divorce” AskMen.com, Apr. 25, 2014